Cate: Hello, Goldilocks, it's me again. Do you read me, over?

Goldilocks: Yes, Cate, I read you. What's up?

Cate: Gains and challenges do you want to hear about it?

Goldilocks: You know I do. Go ahead.

Cate: I went to see my mother-in-law in the nursing home yesterday evening. Hooverwood is such an improvement over where she was and she seems happier. Anyway, when I walked into the room she was in bed. When I called to her she opened her eyes and after studying me breifly her whole face lit up and she called me by name. This time it was the correct name and not "Agnes." She asked me how I was and I replied with my usual happy Being-ness tone that I was wonderful. And then I asked how she was and she replied, "well, I guess I'm pretty wonderful as well." I loved her answer. I was feeling love and joy and she picked up the signal. As Larry says, we're all sending and receiving signals. I really look forward to visiting her and she knows it because she told George the same thing. This has been another great gain for me with The Release Technique.

Goldilocks: keep going, I love hearing things like this.

Cate: Yep pretty good joyful day until I hit a brick wall with my sister.

Goldilocks: Ouch, I'll bet that hurt.

Cate: In more ways than one. Ego certainly got a nasty whallop. I swear I think she exists just to make my life miserable. She has an ego the size of an entire state.

Goldilocks: It takes one to know one. Egos read each other, remember?

Cate: Boy do they ever. I wonder why she is so resistant to a method that could easily make her one of the happiest people on the planet.

Goldilocks: Sounds like you are into figuring it out. But to answer your quesiton, misery and suffering can be more attractive to people especially when the ego is so large and commanding. Nobody wants to be told what to do even if you do have her best interest in mind. She may be drowning but isn't gonna allow you to save her either. She'd rather go down with the ship. It's that ego pride thing. I used to be that way so I know where's she's coming from. You're hitting a solid brick wall. Back off and try Releasing instead. You'd be amazed at what can happen.

Cate: I know. I know. But I just want to shake her. She's walking down a blind alley or a gang plank and doesn't see the danger. I couldn't get to Steve in time either.

Goldilocks: (severely) Let it go, Cate. You are not a savior. You can't, and I repeat cannot help someone who does not want help. You will only hurt yourself.

Cate: (half blubbering) But, but she's my sister...

Goldilocks: Doesn't matter. She could be your only daughter and I'd tell you the same thing. Give it up, now!

Cate: It did turn out to be a gain because I recognized that I needed to bring the feelings, up, feel them and then drop them like a hot poker which I did. The release was not as quick as I would have liked but I can say the encounter does not bother me as we speak.

Goldilocks: Good for you. That's more like it.

Cate: In fact, the farther I distanced myself from the situation, the more I realized what a blessing her ego personality is for me. I should call her up every week. I could go free a lot faster. Both she and George really hit my hot button.

Goldilocks: Great job of discriminating. I also know it took great courage to do what you did last night. Don't worry about understanding where she's coming from, it will only start you spinning. Just send her love and approval like you did your mother-in-law and then sit back and watch the fun.

Cate: (smiling) I love you, Goldilocks.

Goldilocks: (thoughtfully) Yes, I know and you love your sister and George and yourself and it's all the same. When you love them, you're loving yourself. Talk about me, talk about you, and I ask, what's the difference? Sound familiar.

Cate: (knowingly) Talk to you soon, Goldilocks

(To best understand this blog, go to the first post in 9/08)